Dear Sambag: How Do I Get Over Him?
I really like this guy whose room is next to mine (I’m in college). Seeing him everyday really doesn’t help the situation either. I’ve been trying to forget him but it is so hard. He is not really my best friend but I have done a lot of things for him. I took care of him the entire night when he was drunk, I helped him fix stuffs, we went party together, and other small things. I’ve found out that one of my best friends like him too (who is a girl). I am hurt but wanted to help her at the same time since I probably should save a friendship than a guy who I had a crush on, so I set them up many dates. The biggest problem I am facing right now is whenever I go out and party, I end up drinking too much because of him. One night I was too drunk and became emotional and my best friend asked me what was wrong, i didn’t want to tell her the real story so I made up a random one. Nobody knows that I am gay. I am regretting helping them become a couple but it wouldn’t be me in the first place anyways. I feel like I am being selfish but it is just too hard.
You just have to get over him. He’s obviously straight, so he’s never going to be interested in you romantically/sexually.
You need to focus on other things. When you find yourself thinking of him, stop yourself and concentrate on something else. Start hanging out with other people, or work on your studies more often.
You have a long life ahead of you. This isn’t the end of the world. You just have to learn to move on. There will be another guy who will love you back and eventually the pain from this experience will be gone.
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