Dear Sambag: Dad Found Out
It happened several days ago. I did something stupid and my dad caught me. Right there and then, I knew that he knew I am gay. After the incident, I tried my best to avoid him like a plague for a few days. However, one day I got a text from him telling me “that it’s not too late, that I can still change and that he’ll keep it a secret from the rest of the family.” I told him that I’m sorry and that I can’t change and nothing will change that I’m still his loving son and begged him to talk to me. That same day, I tried my best to get the strength and courage to tell him in person when he gets home. However, he just told me the same thing as the text. Me, the chicken **** that I am, didn’t seem ready after all and just accepted that and walked away, also thinking that maybe he need some space right now, and may be a ticking time bomb and explode if I don’t cut the right wire.
I’ve known for a very long time that I’m attracted to guys. I haven’t told anyone before. I don’t have that many friends, and I have none that are very close to me. I know I can’t change at all. I just want some acceptance. I only really got my family and if I lose them, I’ll have nothing, no support at all, no safety net, none! And that’s my biggest fear. Although I am 20, I’m still financially dependent to my parents also, and that could very well be a problem, at least he didn’t kick me out. How should I approach this situation?
Jonathan from Texas
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