Dear Sambag: Problem with Boyfriend’s Gay Best Friend
First of all, I have nothing against gay people. But I hate my boyfriend’s GAY and MALE best friend so much, it’s consuming my life. He told me his relationship with my boyfriend “is beyond that of mere friendship”!?
Now, I was willing to give my boyfriend’s gay best friend the benefit of the doubt. But there is conclusive proof that his best friend is manipulative! My boyfriend is totally innocent, sweet and cute, he thinks the world is full of good people… So he is blind to the potential horror that lies at his door step, he can’t see how someone close to him can hurt him easily! So I must protect him!
My boyfriend is trying to get us on good terms with each other, so he got us together at a restaurant last week. Of course, we pretended to be nice to each other in front of him. I had to endure watching his gay best friend having his hands all over MY boyfriend! Argh! I just wanted to throw my drink at that gay guy! Once my boyfriend left to go to the bathroom, I was like, “Who do you think you are?!”
He just laughed in response as if I said something stupid. And he replied, “You should consider yourself lucky Eve, you’re his number one ‘woman’… Too bad the number one ‘person’ in his life is reserved for me. Listen carefully, what I feel for him is beyond that of mere friendship, and there is nothing you can do about that.” That smug little… Argh! I want to slap him right then and there but I held it in! What should I do about this?
Eve from California
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