Dear Sambag: Don’t Want to Be Gay
Is it bad to not want to be gay? I know I am attracted to other guys, but I don’t want to act on this, ever. I don’t really know any gay people and all this pride stuff etc. they do seems scary and alien to me.
I just don’t want a boyfriend — the awkward looks in the street, the rumours, having to tell and then be thrown out by my family (seriously I heard them say that if one of their kids is gay they will be out on the street.)
It’s just not worth it for me, my plan is just to make them think I just haven’t found anyone ( I am not selfish enough to trick a girl into falling for me or something.)
Joseph from Kentucky
That’s a really tough question to answer. I wouldn’t say it is bad but if you deny your true self then you’ll only wind up unhappy. Why do you care about what other people think about you? Why would you want to be part of a family who can’t love you unconditionally regardless of your sexuality? You will move out of your home eventually and build a life for yourself that embraces your desires. Don’t worry about other people judging you, just learn to accept and love yourself for who you are.
But I’ll stop there and let our readers weigh in. Please share your advice and experiences in the Comments below.