Dear Sambag: Can’t Trust My Young Boyfriend
My boyfriend left his email signed in on my computer. Found messages he had been getting on various dating websites and accounts he had created. Said he needed to talk to like minded people and let it go too far. He has “fantasies” that he wants to try, but didn’t know how to bring them up to me. I read one where he had sort of made plans to meet with someone for lunch or some sh*t. I’m heartbroken and confused. He says he loves me more than anything and that he felt guilty before I brought it up. Said he deleted everything before I found out about it.
He’s only 19 and I’m 31 and he said he was ready for something long term and that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me, but now I don’t know if that’s true. I don’t know if I can trust him. I know he didn’t technically cheat on me, but it feels bad. I don’t know what to do or what to think because I love him so much. Help or advice?
You’re 31. He’s 19. You think he’s ready to spend the rest of his life with you? You should know better. Even if he feels that way in the moment, he has a lot of growing to do, a lot to learn and a lot of experiences to have. Dump him and date people who aren’t just out of high school. Breaking up is doing a favor to both of you.
But I’ll stop there and let our readers weigh in. Please share your advice in the Comments below.