Dear Sambag: Has Feelings for Previously “Straight” Roommate
So the other day, my roommate (who I thought was straight) texted me to tell me that he was dating a guy now. I was very surprised because he had only talked about dating women.
The result has been a bunch of emotions I am having a hard time processing. I think it’s hard because since I thought he was straight it was easy to push down my feelings for him because I know I couldn’t feasibly date him.
Now, that I know it’s possible I am mixed between this being great news to find out he was bi but I feel sad/jealous that he is taken. These feelings haven’t subsided over the past few days and I am having a hard time figuring out what to do with them. They were especially bad last night because he brought his boyfriend over for the first time.
I have been debating telling him how I feel, but I realize that comes with several issues: I might lose a friendship, we live together so that could just create drama, I would be a shitty person trying to complicate a relationship he is having for the first time with a guy.
It is also not his problem that I am having these emotions. Obviously, I don’t know if he has feelings back for me. I am someone who has a hard time hiding his feelings and maybe expressing them would make me feel better by showing me it wasn’t going to be a thing. Anyways, I don’t know… any advice would be great.
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