Dear Sambag: How Do I Tell My Dad I Know He’s Gay?
My dad (52) is a great guy and I want him to know I support him but he’s gone to pretty great lengths to hide his sexuality from me so it’s pretty easy to tell that he’s insecure about himself. On the one hand, he’s a ultra conservative, devout Catholic (voted for Trump and thinks that Pope Francis is too progressive) but on the other hand he’s mostly open-minded about people and he’s never been homophobic in any way (he once met one of my gay friends who’s very open and was very respectful albeit a little hesitant around him).
I know he’s gay because after my mom died he’s never dated for my entire childhood. They had separate bedrooms (he claimed he didn’t want to disturb her because he’s an insomniac). The real kicker, though, is his “assistant”. My dad has a construction company and works with a lot of Hispanics but spends most of his time with a young guy who’s pretty much my age (he’s 24). They go to dinner every night, he comes to our house several times a week and spends the night (because they’re working on “projects). One night around 3am, I went down to the basement where we have an entertainment room and saw them on the couch snuggled together with my dad rubbing his leg.
I love my dad and want him to be happy. I would hate it if his sexuality is making him miserable because he’s always been my role model throughout life. I know that he’s kept secrets from me before and he’s been very good at it (apparently he was addicted to painkillers pretty much my entire life up until I went to college… I never knew the entire time). With this it just hurts me any time I see him trying to cover up his feelings so how I can I go about talking to him about this?
I say leave it. A fifty two year old man that is still hiding it from his family won’t come out to his kids. He will deny it.
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