Dear Sambag,

A few months ago when I was at work, I met up with a coworker who I am really close to. I am already out to my circle of friends and so wanted to include him into my secret. When I had told him that I was gay, he was shocked and started insulting me and attacking me with threats. This was the very first time I have heard such language used on me. He said things like “I wish your kind was burned” and “God created you to destroy mankind”.

I resolved the issue by speaking to management but was quite frankly sad that the friendship was “over”. After the next couple weeks, he contacted me apologizing and I willingly forgave him because our friendship was so valuable to me and I was curious as to what had made him call me back.

When he apologized, we went out for dinner and watched a movie and that same night, he opened up to me and said how he was able to get past his homophobia during his time thinking about the conflict and that he has an older brother (after 2 years, I honestly thought he was an only child) that is gay and his family chose to kick him out of the house and at such a young age, he was taught to hate homosexuals. He told me that after 10 years of losing his brother, he finally contacted him yesterday, finding out that the older brother now has a child, a loving husband, and successful career, and started crying as he was retelling me his story.

People can change and everyone should be given a second chance. Please do some good in the world by changing each other for the better. Our friendship is only 2 years long and it only took around 3 months for him going from completely homophobic to completely accepting.

Skip

Dear Skip,

Good on your friend questioning his belief system and having the maturity to apologize to you. More people need to be like him. Thanks for sharing!

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Dear Sambag, A few months ago when I was at work, I met up with a coworker who I am really close to. I am already out to my circle of friends and so wanted to include him into my secret. When I had told him that I was gay,...