Dear Sambag,

I found out that the aggressively homophobic guy who has been harassing me for almost a year now is gay. So instead of confronting him about it in person (would have been a lot more awkward), I unblocked him on one of my social media accounts and sent him a friendly message.

In my message, I said that I knew his secret and that although he has been an a$$hole to me, I wouldn’t mind introducing him to other gay people or helping him find LGBT support groups. He got overly defensive and told me to mind my own business. I told him I wouldn’t be having this conversation with him if he also minded his business. He stopped replying after that. Then he messaged me a long text at 1 in the morning, apologizing for being a dick. He said that he was insecure about his sexuality and that he was “jealous” of me because I was openly gay and confident about it. He also wrote that if his family found out, they would probably kick him out and his friends would never speak to him again.

It really broke my heart. So I forgave him and once again offered helping him find an LGBT support group. Since we go to the same school, I told him he could hang out with me and my friends if he wanted. He said he would think about it and that this wasn’t easy for him.

Rey

Dear Rey,

You have more maturity than a lot of us could ever dream of. You really handled it well.

I’m really glad the tactic work. I had a feeling his acting out was more a cry for help than a threat. He’s going to need people and you, my friend, are good people.

But I’ll stop there and let our readers weigh in. Please share your advice in the Comments below.

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Dear Sambag, I found out that the aggressively homophobic guy who has been harassing me for almost a year now is gay. So instead of confronting him about it in person (would have been a lot more awkward), I unblocked him on one of my social media accounts and sent...