Dear Sambag,

If I knew he was a smoker I wouldn’t have met up with him. So we met up, the sex was mindblowing and I didn’t knew he was smoking then. We then met up again, hooked up again and after that we started texting daily. We have been hanging out for 2 weeks now, we hooked up 4 times within that period and I already feel ready to move to the boyfriends stage.

We have the same taste in almost everything, we are both vegetarians, he’s super attractive and funny. If I could I’d seriously wife him right this second.
But the smoking is a serious deal breaker. I have asthma and both my parents were abusive smokers. I’m not here to ask to stop smoking but it is bothering me. He’s kind enough to chew gum before we make out, but the taste is still there and he also tries to not smoke in front of me because of the asthma.

It would have been less of a deal breaker if he smoked one or two but he doesn’t. We hung out the whole day on Friday and he smoked about 10.

  • he smoked one before entering the front door
  • left to smoke one after an hour
  • smoked another one after sex
  • another one after we ate
  • and some more cigarettes in between

He even joked about how many he was smoking.

I’m afraid of problems we might encounter if we become boyfriends. God advice for me?

Bond

Dear Bond,

You should be honest with him about how you feel. If you want to move further, you should tell him he needs to stop smoking and you’ll help him with it. It won’t be fast or easy, but it’ll be good for his health. Maybe ask him to see if quitting smoking has ever been on his mind? You might be that incentive. If it doesn’t work out, you don’t lose anything.

But I’ll stop there and let our readers weigh in. Please share your advice in the Comments below.

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Dear Sambag, If I knew he was a smoker I wouldn't have met up with him. So we met up, the sex was mindblowing and I didn't knew he was smoking then. We then met up again, hooked up again and after that we started texting daily. We have been...